I knew a murderer one time who confessed to me that he had killed a man. He had an intense desire to transform himself-to be reborn mentally and spiritually. He had a very receptive attitude of mind and believed that "with God, all things are possible." At my suggestion, he started to still the wheels of his mind for 15 or 20 minutes several times daily; then he would silently, quietly, and lovingly claim and feel that he was now a channel for God´s peace, beauty, wisdom, and intelligence; and that his mind and heart were being cleansed, purified, healed, and restored. As he did this regularly, sincerely, and enthusiastically, he began to become more loving, peaceful, and kid in all his ways. An inner sense of peace welled up within him.
One night this man had an inner experience sometimes called conversation. He said he seemed to be immersed in a blaze of light. Actually, he was blinded by the light for a while. All he could remember was that he felt ecstasy and rapture of God´s love. His feeling was indescribable. He was a changed man in his mind and heart and began to teach others how to live; he is still doing it.
Murphy, Dr Joseph, Techniques In Prayer Therapy, New Delhi, Manjul Publishing House, 2015
Before forgiving others it is necessary to forgive ourselves for our actions as they are done in the emotion of the moment and without focus on the consequences. It is never too late to change ourselves for the better if we want to live a happy and peaceful life.